Sometimes things and people get in the way of you Living your BEST life!
And what do we do? What’s the knee jerk reaction? We take it personally. When in fact, everyone I mean evreee one is here to teach us something. What a great adventure life becomes when you see it that way.
We look into that box of See’s Candy and we pick the one that ‘calls’ to us. Yech! Plech! We spit it out. (We think: My bad).
Then we try another and Mmmmmm that one is good!
And that’s how we try on situations, try on people, try on even jobs or people to hire, people to partner with, groups to join, etc.
How long are we here for exactly? Nobody knows. But we can do a couple of things to make the trip fun:
- We can stop numbering things – lol
- We can laugh more
- We can sing more
- We can create more
- We can be less judgmental and by that I mean stop condemning others in our minds for not being like us or thinking like us
- We can be more forgiving, because if we do that for others, in turn, we have to forgive ourselves when things come up
- We can let go of things that are not working
- We can let go of bad thoughts and bad memories
- We can thank the universe for giving us all these lessons
- We can thank ourselves for getting the lessons before any real damage is done
And remember that every experience is here for us to learn from. You don’t have to continue to hang with people that don’t have their act together. You don’t have to continue in a group going nowhere. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.
Going forward, you can aim at being the best you possible. Sometimes people actually ask me if I feel competitive with other chefs. Hell no! My job is to compete with myself to be the best me I can be!
THAT’S COOL CHEF! WHAT ELSE?
You can stop thinking only about only yourself and find ways to improve things for others. And you can love more. You can have more compassion even to that person you have to make up a story to, in order to leave that group or stop being a friend to.
You can have compassion that these people are left with themselves, with so many lessons to learn that they may never get to, because they don’t see it as an opportunity to work through….. too busy fighting with their own egos. They only see it as an opportunity to blame, to judge, to dismiss. I see it as more to be pitied than censured.
Ever had anything bad happen to you? Situations? People?
YES CHEF!
Of course you have! No one gets out unscathed. And isn’t good to know we’re all playin’ in the same band, just trying to make our way in this world the best we can?
To those of you that are fathers and your children are older now and totally disconnected from you, as you were to them during their younger years……. forgive yourself. When you know better you do better. Be ok with the kids and understand that one day they may grow into their parenting years and understand that no one gives you a book on how to be a parent. Well, now that I think of it and my children’s younger years, there were plenty of books available.
You can read those books, but if you are reading through the role models you had as parents, nothing is changing in the next generation. And if you had one parent that was wonderful – nurturing, loving, supportive…. see that parent as your role model. Only when we can take the time to see it’s not about who did what, and zoom out to the bigger picture that we can understand forgiveness.
We need to practice more forgiveness this Father’s Day. Thoughts may be things, but if you carry that heavy load it’s not hurting him. Only you.
Wishing you peace and love and of course …
Happy Eating,
Chef Marian